The Course of Love — Alain de Botton

Having only read his first book two weeks before, it felt quite nice to read Alain DE BOTTON’s most recent book and see that not much has changed.

There’s something very reassuring about two books on a topic with 20 years between them and so little change.

As if to reassure more, it seems that in those 20 years, DE BOTTON has developed a calm, cool rationality that he didn’t have when he published his first novel.

Here are some nice little passages:

Kirsten wants, with an intensity that surprises her, to comfort the twelve-year-old boy across the decades.

Something I was certainly glad to identify with:

We don’t need to be constantly reasonable in order to have good relationships; all we need to have mastered is the occasional capacity to acknowledge with good grace that we may, in one or two areas, be somewhat insane.

I trait I often forget about in my own self:

At the first sign that either one of them is adopting a pedagogical tone, the other assumes that they are under attack, which in turn causes them to close their ears to instruction and to react with sarcasm and aggression to suggestions, thereby generating further irritation and weariness in the mind of the fragile ‘instructing’ party.

And a very important idea for all of us:

trick is perhaps not to start a new life but to learn to reconsider the old one with less jaded and habituated eyes.

Nice one Alain.